Renowned psychologist and bestselling author of The Dance of Anger sheds new light on the two most important words in the English languageâ€”Iâ€™m sorryâ€”and offers a unique perspective on the challenge of healing broken connections and restoring trust. Dr. Harriet Lerner has been studying apologiesâ€”and why some people wonâ€™t give themâ€”for more than two decades. Now she offers compelling stories and solid theory that bring home how much the simple apology matters and what is required for healing when the hurt weâ€™ve inflicted (or received) is far from simple. Readers will learn how to craft a deeply meaningful â€œIâ€™m sorryâ€ and avoid apologies that only deepen the original injury. Why Wonâ€™t You Apologize? also addresses the compelling needs of the injured partyâ€”the one who has been hurt by someone who wonâ€™t apologize, tell the truth, or feel remorse. Lerner explains what drives both the non-apologizer and the over-apologizer, as well as why the people who do the worst things are the least able to own up. She helps the injured person resist pressure to forgive too easily and challenges the popular notion that forgiveness is the only path to peace of mind. With her trademark humor and wit, Lerner offers a joyful and sanity-saving guide to setting things right.